We’re all human and we all have desires.
When it comes to sex, we all need something different to fulfil our deepest, darkest fantasies. Depending on our preferences, we may be searching for an exciting new stimulation, something to heat things up or looking to experiment with something we’ve always been curious about to make that time in the bedroom extra memorable.
Introducing sex toys, stimulants and naughty costumes can all help in the grand scheme of creating the biggest and best orgasm, but with such a huge range of products available on the market, it can get confusing, especially for those that are new to them or just curious about trying these things.
So here are 7 tips for making the most of things in the bedroom from things you probably already own!
1) Clothes pegs
I can guarantee nearly all of us have a bag of clothes pegs stuffed somewhere in the garage or utility room. Made to hang out the washing, they serve their purpose perfectly. But did you know, you can use clothes pegs in sadistic and naughty ways too?
Clothes pegs make incredible nipple clamps, as they are super easy to use, cheap and you probably already have them in abundance! They’ll grip the nipples and give them a tweak, enhancing your pleasure during sex.
Plastic or wooden pegs are usually the best for taking advantage of, although if you’re feeling particularly devilish, you could try some metal ones. If you own a metal set, that is!
Try using them on other areas as well as the nipples for even more fun…
2) Ice cubes
Ice costs nothing (other than the electricity to power the freezer). Use a standard ice cube tray to fill with water and then freeze some cubes for your adventure of love later on.
Once they are ready, you can slowly melt them over your lover’s body in a steamy, passionate act of lust, helping to stimulate your senses as the cold ice melts over their hot body. I feel a bottom lip bite would be appropriate right about now. And speaking of lips…
3) Your mouth
Yes, many participants in sex don’t actually realise that they can use their mouth to stimulate their partner to transport them to new realms of pleasure!
Use your own mouth to tease and please your other half’s body. Lick them. Breathe over their body. Whisper in their ear. And of course, if you’re feeling it, go down. Oral sex will really get their motor running!
Your partner’s mouth can be used as a sensory experience. Why not try blindfolding them and teasing them with fruits and indulgent treats, keeping them guessing what they are eating? Slowly stroke a strawberry around their lips. Get them to stick their tongue out and place a piece of chocolate on there, allowing it to slowly and gently melt, covering their tongue in sweet, creamy goodness. But if you don’t have a blindfold…
4) Material
Covering the eyes and removing sight can be intensely erotic in the bedroom but isn’t always achievable without a blindfold… WRONG!
You all have at least one of these things in your house: socks, underwear, a tea towel, a flannel, a scarf, a cloth… the list goes on. You can literally use ANY piece of material to cover the eyes and deprive your partner of sight, ready for lustful games and sexy times! Keep them guessing what is coming next. Tease them by creating sounds that they are unfamiliar with. When you remove their vision, other senses like touch are heightened, so they’ll feel and experience everything just that little bit more… perfect for mixing with Ice Cubes (Tip number 2).
5) Mirrors
Mirrors can help in the mission of love. Some people can really get off to seeing themselves and/or their partner as they are masturbating or having intercourse. Whether staring at hot, naked bodies is your thing or you want to see your love making at a different angle, experiment by positioning mirrors in different places. Try the foot of the bed. On the ceiling. Or even try using mirrored wardrobe doors to get the desired effect. However you do it, it can be incredibly erotic to see your lover from behind as well as in front as they pound away!
6) Video yourself
Similar to seeing yourself in the mirror, it can be just as erotic to watch back your passionate together time. You don’t even need a fancy video camera though as mobile phone cameras are just as good, if not better these days.
Use a tripod if you’re wanting a decent job, so that you can get the angles and shots that matter, and make sure the room is lit enough for you to see what’s going on.
After you and your partner are “spent”, you can play back the video and enjoy the action all over again from a different perspective.
The nice thing about watching it back is that it will also give you and your lover a chance to chat about what really worked and what you could try more or less of next time.
Whether you keep the file to watch again later is up to you, but whatever you do, don’t keep it easily accessible! The last thing you want is for it to be found by a friend or relative!
7) Spanking made easy
For my final tip, if you’ve never tried spanking but have been curious about it, it’s incredibly easy to simulate with varying degrees of intensity, depending on what you are looking for. Of course, there’s the good ol’ slap on the butt, bent over your partner’s knee sort of stuff, but if that doesn’t quite do it for you, use objects found at home for different sensations. How about using the sole of a shoe to spank them silly, or beat their bum with a rolled up newspaper? Or maybe a plastic or wooden ruler to make them “oooh” if that works for you.
If you want to take things a little further, garden cane can also work for impact play, but I’d only recommend this for those masochists who want to take a real hard thwacking!
Whatever you’re into, however you play in the bedroom, have a good time! You’ve probably got everything I’ve mentioned above already in your home. Be adventurous with what you already own, try to use things in different ways and you’re sure to open up new pathways of pleasure…
Happy humping!
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